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Helping your child understand how your family is changing

On Behalf of | Jan 20, 2023 | Divorce |

Your life in Michigan is changing, and telling your child that you and your spouse are getting divorced can be one of the most difficult conversations you will ever have. Therefore, it is vital to approach this conversation with care and sensitivity and to consider the best way to explain the situation to your child.

Talking to your child about your divorce

Telling your child about a divorce won’t be easy. Still, it is important to approach the conversation with care and sensitivity. By being honest and direct, while also offering reassurance and support, you can help your child understand and cope with the changes that are taking place. It is important to remember that the family may look different now, but the love and support will still be present. Here are some tips for telling your child about the divorce:

  • Choose a private, quiet place where you can talk with your child without interruption.
  • Be honest and direct with your child but avoid going into too much detail about the reasons for the divorce.
  • Let your child know that the divorce is not their fault and that both parents still love them.
  • Reassure your child that they will still see both parents and that the family will still be a family, just in a different way.
  • Be prepared for a range of emotions from your child and be willing to listen and offer support.
  • Avoid talking negatively about the other parent in front of your child.
  • Consider talking to your child together with your spouse.

You don’t have to do this alone

Your child’s age and maturity level must be considered when having this kind of conversation. Seeking professional help from a therapist or family counselor can also benefit your child and the family.