Untangling two lives can be complex and emotionally taxing, making it hard for spouses to communicate. However, productive communication between the two parties is essential during a divorce.
It is about more than communicating long enough to resolve your divorce issues. Effective dialogue is also about preserving future relationship — a critical consideration if you share children.
The importance of parental communication
Spousal communication allows both parties to express their needs, concerns and expectations during the divorce process. When it falters, misunderstandings can flourish, possibly prolonging the divorce and creating psychological hardships for children.
Approaching each conversation with the intent to understand and be understood is crucial in sharing perspectives and finding common ground. Such an approach can significantly reduce the strain of divorce, potentially paving the way for a more peaceful resolution.
Unfortunately, communicating with someone you are divorcing can be easier said than done. These tips may help:
- Maintain respect. Even in disagreement, treat each other with dignity.
- Be clear and concise. Avoid being vague about your intentions and expectations.
- Listen actively. Listen to your co-parent and try to understand their viewpoint, especially if you want similar consideration.
- Avoid outbursts. Keep your emotions in check or walk away and reschedule.
When the subject matter is tough, some conversations may be best left to a co-parenting app or written communication to lower contention.
Respectful dialogue can set a positive precedent for ongoing interactions, promoting a cooperative post-divorce co-parenting relationship.
Don’t give up
If you are struggling to communicate effectively during your divorce, it can help to have legal guidance. They can be a buffer between you and your spouse, potentially resulting in less stressful and more productive negotiations.