Parents who decide that they’re going to divorce should ensure that they consider how to tell their children. This is a major life change for the children, and they may not understand why everything has to change.
Because this is such an emotionally charged time, it may be difficult for you to think about ways to make telling the children a bit less stressful. Considering these three tips may help you as you decide when and how to tell them.
Choose a time that’s calm and unrushed
Tell all your children at the same time and in a place that’s private. Choose a time when you don’t have to rush through the discussion. Ideally, you’ll be able to do this when they don’t have major school or life events, such as final exams.
Present a unified front
You and your ex should tell the children about the divorce together. Presenting a unified front before them can show them that both of their parents will continue to do what’s best for them despite the divorce. This can also reduce the chance of them trying to play one parent against the other because they’ll know you’re still communicating with each other.
Don’t make promises you can’t keep
Be truthful with the children about what the future will entail. If you don’t know the answer to something, be honest. Always avoid making promises that you can’t keep.
Throughout the divorce process and after, it’s critical that you put the children’s needs first. This may mean putting your own wishes aside for a bit. Working with someone who can help you evaluate your options from a logical standpoint may be beneficial so you can end the marriage on the best footing possible.